The Mask you LiVE IN

by Frank Zendejas

“I had no idea!” Those were the words that rang true for me as I watched Brene’ Brown’s TED talks about shame and vulnerability. I watched her videos on YouTube at the recommendation of my therapist who earlier that afternoon shared “Frank, yes you’re a molestation victim. And, there's been a lifelong impact. What you’re suffering from is Shame Trauma.”
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“Shame Trauma?” I repeated out load with the obvious tone that I had no idea what that was or meant. I followed up my massive dose of Brene' Brown TED talk videos ordering every book, CD, and DVD that I could find on Amazon. 
My intense and purposeful therapy and education on Shame Trauma got started. Twenty months later, my therapist and I sat in her office, looking at each other, and arrived at the obvious conclusion that this was it. Today was my last session. I had traveled the path, learned, put into practice, shared, and triumphed through my Shame Trauma.
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I learned to put into action the commitment, dedication, work, and pursuit of becoming an integrated man.  This meant developing the emotional intimacy that granted me emotional vocabulary. This meant facing my griefs, losses, and past hurts to resolve them -- to become emotionally complete. This meant stepping away from the hustles of what “success” use to mean to me and live from a state of vulnerability, boldness, and wholeheartedness. This meant clarity and purpose. This meant dedicating myself to helping others achieve their personal life integration.
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This is reflected in my dedication as a Life Coach and in my daily declarations:
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“I, Frank, see, hear, feel, and know that my purpose is to lead my life, to be complete, and wholehearted. That I AM a vessel of the Divine’s energy and in beautiful, bold, nurturing service to myself and others every day of my life.”